Do you know what the definition of “autopilot” is? Here’s the official Webster definition:
“ autopilot - a cognitive state in which you act without self-awareness - she went about her chores on automatic pilot"
When I read this, I stopped in my tracks and said, that’s exactly how I have lived most of my life! It didn’t matter if I was really busy, sick, stressed, depressed or just didn’t have enough time in the day, my default was to go on “autopilot” and I could get it all done. Yes, but at a HUGE personal cost to me.
As women, we are trying to balance it all... careers, illness, family, home, relationships, aging parents, and so much more!. There is never enough time, or to even think about what we are doing. That’s what makes it so easy to go on “autopilot”, and that become our normal or default...NO THINKING REQUIRED.
Well, it’s time to start changing that process and to decide what our new normal will be. I have been working on this for quite some time and a really good friend said something to me that really changed my life.
She said “we all have the same 24 hours in a day, and it’s up to you to decide how you want to spend it”. When she said that to me, of course, I got huffy and said, but you don’t understand. The truth was that she did understand and was exactly right.
I have found some ways to start changing my “autopilot”, and I wanted to share them with you:
- AWARE - This sounds simple, but it’s harder than you think. Start to pay attention to when you feel like you are just going from one thing to the next and not thinking or you know that you are on “autopilot”. This is not about being right or wrong, but just about being aware.
- NOTICE - Notice what you doing, how you are feeling and be curious. I find that I am usually doing it because I have ALWAYS done it this way, or I am trying to live up to someone else’s expectations. This will give you an opportunity to really focus in more clearly.
- CHOOSE – Once you starting paying closer attention to what you are actually doing, and focusing in on why, you now have the opportunity to make a choice. You may still choose to do the same thing as before and stay on “autopilot” for this task, but at least you now have a choice. That’s what makes the real difference is that you are choosing, not just doing!
While I still do go on “autopilot” and back to my default, at least now I know that I am making a conscious choice now and I do think about it before I automatically go there. It’s a slow road, but it does work.
You can start to change your defaults and find ways to get off “autopilot” today! It just takes the awareness of what you are doing, notice how you are feeling, and then you can make a choice. It’s never too late to makes changes in your life. It’s time to take that first step.
Please let me hear from you on what’s working and how I can support you in your journey.
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About the Author:
Darlene Templeton, the transformation and transition coach and leadership expert
Darlene Templeton is the CEO and founder of Templeton & Associates. She is a corporate “escapee”, a professional coach, speaker, and author. She specializes in transformation and transition specifically for those who want to make a greater impact personally and professionally while rekindling their passion and drive for life. Darlene engages, inspires and empowers women who are overworked and overwhelmed, helping them to put more time back into their lives, so that can do the things that they truly love.
Darlene lives in Austin, Texas with her husband, John. She loves spending time with her family and her four grandchildren.