By Barbara Metzger
If you have ever been around a newborn, you know they coming into this world with their own personality. I believe we are born with our behavioral style - how we interact with the world. Do you love being around others? Do you prefer to think through problems on our own? Are you easy going? Do you have a flash temper? Are you fearless? Are you scared of new things?
My girlfriend has three grandchildren, all three year old girls. They are so incredibly different that on Christmas morning a year ago, they all went to their own Santa’s presents. No arguing, no envy, no issues. Why? Because they got what they individually preferred.
Are you in a job you focused on your strengths? Do you really enjoy it and the people you are around all day? OR… are you tired, exhausted and dread it? Do you have a conflict with your job? We can all do things that aren’t our favorite some of the time. But when we have a significant emotional event in our lives - death, divorce, diagnosis of cancer - our natural strengths and weaknesses come to tumbling to the forefront.
You see, your job has it’s own preferences. What kind of person does it want or need? A detail person knowing what is expected, and following the guidelines? Outgoing, talking to people all day? A quick decision maker? Complex analysis of data? When you are in a job that needs something that is not your natural strength, it might create undue stress for you. Such as, a good, loyal team player that likes to finish something before moving to the next task and sees the phone as an interruption whose job needs them to answer phones all day.
Our fast paced society, very focused on the bottom line, has increased the expectations for employee work loads. The health care industry is a prime example. Overall this industry attracts people that hate conflict, want to help others, likes to complete each task before going to another, enjoys knowing exactly what is expected so they can do it right the first time. Health care is seeing a faster burnout rate that ever before because not only has our society gotten faster, but multi-tasking with constant interruptions is expected to be a strength. This is NOT a natural strength for what the job called for in 1975 and generally is not the natural for a care giver. The burnout rate has accelerated tremendously.
Having to act behaviorally outside of our natural strengths for hours every day, day after day puts us, statically, at risk for illness or an accident. It is like using battery power all day and our battery is wearing out. On your cell phone after a while it needs to be recharged more and more frequently. Are you recharging yourself enough? Is your daily environment, at work or at home, giving or subtracting from your bank of energy?
Do you love to solve problems, have a fear someone might take advantage of you, like to sit with your face to the door, can be very direct with what or how you say something and probably have a quick temper? Then you need physical exercise to get rid of that stress, even better if there is some competition to it.
Are you outgoing, love to talk, want to please others so they will like you, talk with your hands, take things personally or get emotional pretty easily? Then you need to talk out your problems. You need a good listener because you will sometimes solve your own problems just as you talk them through.
Do you prefer to finish a task once you start it, plan your day, work your plan, like a routine, are a good team player, workplace security, tell things on a need to know basis and like others to leave your personal items alone? Then you need time to do nothing, to “veg out” and warm or hot water such as a hot shower, bubble bath, or hot tub will be very good for you to replenish your energy, too.
Is your style more about analyzing data, feeling comfortable knowing and following the rules, liking a very organized space, avoiding mistakes, think that others are too emotional, and hate when people eat in your car? Then you need alone time. Yep, all alone. Time to think or work on a project, or read, or just be.
Are you loving your job? No? Really tired at the end of the day? Tired before the day starts? Identify what you need (above) and start making sure you put it into your routine every single day to lower that stress level.
Barbara Metzger provides valuable career advice and testing to help you find your skill sets.After major life change such as disease many find it necessary to change course and create change in their position but are unsure how to go about it. Barbara helps you do that. Contact her at : Barbara@maxproductivity.com